The way of self-reliance

But, rather than be carried along by circumstances and manipulated by those who can see the weaknesses and behavior tendencies that we ignore, we can work with our own characteristics and be in control of our own lives. The Way of Self-Reliance starts with recognising who we are, what we've got to work with, and what works best for us.

Benjamin Hoff in "The Tao of Pooh" page 57